I am approaching what would have been our 3 year wedding anniversary and as part of my “grief homework” I made a collage. Okay, so I may have cheated a bit because I used mostly scrapbook stickers and color copies of photos but it still required some creativity, if not artistic talent. I figured it would take me a couple of hours yet I was finished within 30 minutes, and kind of sad once it was all over. The homework has inspired me to create a collage for each vacation Jason and I spent together as well as a board for all of the places we had planned to visit. I’ll have to use something much bigger than a 12″ x 12″ canvas for the latter project because traveling and seeing as much of the world as possible was our priority, and also the reason we tried to keep our lives somewhat simple. Material things never ranked highly on our list because we knew that memories were more important, and looking back I’m so happy that we both drove inexpensive cars and tried to live modestly so we could afford to take two-week vacations. We spent our money on experiences…and good food!
Many of my coworkers would make comments like “I wish I could afford to fly to Italy” or “it must be nice to have money to travel so often” as if I should have felt guilty for these excursions! These same people made the choice to buy a new car every year or spend all of their money on a home theater system.
It all comes back to what you value in life and what is left over once the party ends. I had the opportunity to see so much of the world with Jason and create memories that will always be with me. A luxury car in the driveway or a bigger house with stainless steel appliances could never bring me the same satisfaction as sitting at a cafe in Croatia drinking beer with my husband, or walking amongst ancient ruins in Izmir, Turkey. My biggest regret is that we didn’t have more of those experiences because we always thought there would be more time….but there is never enough time, is there?